Been just over a month of being a dad. Now that my head is a bit clearer here's some lessons I learned in 30 days of fatherhood.
You can have a rich life without kids
Based on what some people will tell you, life is incomplete without kids. Not true. Before Valdese and I had Roman we had an awesome life. We were trying on and off for five years to conceive and we're cool with or without a child. I think some people feel their life is not awesome without kids and if that's you I suggest that you get out and do something bold with your time on earth. Don't make kids the excuse for not having a complete life and don't make people feel bad if they choose not to have kids.
The first 30 days are magical?
Many people tell me that the first month is magical but I disagree. It's not bad, but I'm not finding the magic of trying to run my business, make sure my wife has what she needs and try to figure out a newborn's needs. Getting sleep in two-hour blocks then having to be behind, or worse, on camera is not easy. Getting baby pee and poop on me is the least of my concerns.
True, every day is getting somewhat easier but if there's magic here I'm hoping to see it soon.
Health Care in American Sucks
Not much to say here since I'm certain anyone living in America knows that our health care sucks. Valdese and I are paying five figures out of pocket for a standard hospital birth and we have insurance. If I felt it would help our country I'd gladly punch someone in the face but I don't know who that would be and I don't believe the problem to be one person. Still, boxing may be in my future.
I appreciate technology more than ever
Writing this post on my iPhone while I rock Roman to sleep makes me really appreciate technology as a solopreneur. Same goes for my iPad, GX8 and a few other bits. Talking tech is one thing but when you're forced to make a decision quickly, what you choose is what works best right now rather than what might work best based on specs.
Taking Swift Action
As in mentioned above, having to make decisions quickly means not overthinking it. Now that I have limited time to work, when I do produce it's fast and done. I have some very cool stuff coming, my best stuff yet and a lot of it is due to taking swift action.
I'm grateful for my family
Family to me is more than blood. There's my online family (that's you), my work family, people I've know forever family...well you get the point. To my closest peeps who offered support, advice or a simple congrats, I want you to know I'm grateful for you.
Now that Roman is here I can check out another goal from my About page. ICYMI, every year I post some of my goals publicly on my about page. I might fail at them and I might not but putting them out there keeps me focused.
While I'm not turning my site into a daddy blog, Roman is 10.8 LBS of baby that can't be ignored. Now that he's asleep I can wrap up this post and move onto the next task...if he lets me.